You alone are enough. You have nothing to prove to anybody.
You are enough. These 3 words came to mind upon realizing that October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. As a woman who has overcome sexual assault, I know how important it is to be reminded that you are enough-- particularly in situations that leave you feeling less than...or like nothing, at all. In fact, it’s not just victims or survivors of sexual assault and domestic violence that need this encouragement. Sometimes it’s the woman who is seeking unhealthy attention, the thirst trapping instamodel, or the woman who stays in an unfulfilling relationship because she’s afraid to be alone. Perhaps it’s the Ms. Independent who works excessively to prove herself to others, or the woman who lowers her standards because she’s been hurt so many times that it’s impossible to believe that Mr. Right exists. It could be the woman who questions her ability to be a good mom, successful business woman,or loving wife.
Wherever you may find yourself, I just want to tell you that you are enough.
Here’s 7 reasons why...
God made you. You are here! No matter what your current circumstances or conditions are, no matter what you’ve done or what you’ve been through, you are alive; made on purpose for a purpose.
You have something unique to offer. It could be your perspective, gift, time, smile, or presence; those things are a gift. You can see this when you focus on what you do have versus what you don’t. These are things that help make life easier for others, or adds joy to a loved one's special day.
Somebody loves you. There is somebody who absolutely adores you, cherishes you, thinks of you, appreciates you, remembers you, prays for you, and even asks about you. It is a blessing to be on the heart and mind of someone; sometimes it’s even a stranger, like your Starbucks barista or your favorite clerk at the grocery store.
Nobody’s perfect. No one has it all together or gets it right all the time, and everyone makes mistakes. Everyone has lessons learned and has experienced some level of hurt and pain. All of these things, flaws and all, make you just who you are-- it’s enough.
You’re not for everybody. It’s OK! The people that aren’t for you, that spoke against you, that walked out on you, that doubted you, those aren’t your people. It’s really OK! At the end of the day, you’ll always find that there are more people for you than there are against you.
Fear is a liar! Most times we feel inadequate because fear causes us to question our personal outcomes and capabilities. Fear will even have us concerned about the opinions of others. Trust me, if F.E.A.R. (false evidence appearing real) is present, it almost, always means that you’re headed in the right direction. You’re good, boo. You’re enough.
All things are working together for your good. See, here’s the thing about you-- you are capable of making great choices for for your life. In fact, you have, and will continue to do so. You? You work hard to develop yourself mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. You take chances on yourself. You have vision. You’re an overcomer. You have turned failure into marvelous lessons learned. You have taken what has seemed impossible, and turned it into confetti. You continue to try. You persist. You let go of the unmeaningful, unfruitful foolishness around you. You take steps even when you’re not certain which way to go.
Honey! Let me tell you something! Whether today is the first time someone has ever told you, or you just needed a reminder: You are worthy. You deserve God’s best for your life. You are enough!
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Chicago native, Brandi Nicole Williams is an author, speaker, faith leader, and entrepreneur. Since completing her BA Sociology at DePaul University in 2004, Brandi has been speaking, facilitating workshops, and leading small groups for women and youth. Through this work she has demonstrated a commitment to equipping and empowering individuals to discover their purpose in life. Brandi obtained her Master’s in Theological Studies in 2012 and often lends her voice to matters such as self-worth, body image, and self-esteem. She also loves intertwining biblical principles with fashion, beauty, and pop culture. Over the past year, Brandi has expanded her reach as a personal development coach and consultant to communities, and organizations, seeking to enhance confidence in clients and staff. Brandi currently resides in Nashville, TN. She is a member of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc. and proudly stands 6’3".
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